If you’re reading or have finished reading my book Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl and are pondering what your values are, the things that you believe you fundamentally need in order to live your life happily and authentically, I’ve put together a mini toolkit to get you thinking about what makes you tick and help you prioritise – a What Are My Values? Worksheet.
It’s very easy to get distracted by other people’s values, as you’ve discovered already after being in an unavailable relationship, and it’s also all too easy to get distracted by secondary values, including hobbies, interests, some personality traits, and other superficial qualities and characteristics that in the grander scheme of things don’t make a difference if you haven’t got the core primary values that you fundamentally need.
More importantly, after you’ve worked out what you’d like your values to be or what you believe they actually are, it’s time to ask – are you living your life congruently with your values? Do your actions, life, and choices reflect who you believe you are and if not, what are you going to do to align them?
Here’s some handy posts on values from over at Baggage Reclaim if you want some more food for thought and insight into values: